Question from a reader:

What is your opinion of tubal ligations?  My husband and my mother both think I should have my tubes tied.  I am 36 years old and have only one son who is nine.  Since his birth I've had many miscarriages; his birth was a miracle. I am due with another son and am perplexed now as to whether or not I should have my tubes tied after his birth.  I’m concerned about more miscarriages and I don’t know if I want more children or not. I don't want to do anything with selfish motives.  I can't decide what to do.  —C.K.

Answer from Sharon Misenhimer, former EPM staff:

Thanks for sharing your story. My heart goes out to you as my husband and I had almost 16 years of infertility problems. I would like to share a little about our story as an encouragement to you, even though the situation is different.

We’d been married for five years and decided we wanted to try to have a baby but I was unable to get pregnant. Ten years later, after many tests and a miscarriage, I delivered our first child. We were very excited! When she was two years old we decided to try for another child. But to our disappointment, I was unable to conceive again. Five years later I had a fibroid tumor that needed to be removed. My doctor suggested that he tie my tubes at the same time as I was 43 years old. I thought it was a great idea as I had given up hope of having another child. My husband said he would go along with whatever I wanted to do but I didn't have peace in my heart so I decided to pray and seek the Lord's will. I felt the Lord was leading me to not have it done. Fifteen months later I gave birth to my son. What a miracle and blessing they have both been to us!

God really does open and close the womb according to his plans. I also feel that God works through doctors to help us with medical problems we’re facing. I can sense this is a difficult situation for you. I will pray that God will guide and direct you to His will. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths." I will pray for you and your husband. God bless you both!

Here is a link to an article on our website that contains some information that may be helpful as well.